Consider the Kid

Well, I’m finally back from a blogging break. I guess I just kind of felt like I was at some type of plateau. I mean, here, I had really started this blog to vent about how frustrating these families are that I work with because I thought surely I wasn’t crazy for thinking what I was thinking about what the families were saying. But then I realized, the issues I have with families are often the same: they are ordering up some kid because they’re afraid of the unknown (even though parenting is an unknown because every child’s personality is so unique–but hey, if its cute and has no medical needs, it’ll be perfect, right…ahh, but I digress…).  So, here, I didn’t just want to keep spouting the same shit over and over again like a whiny older adult that doesn’t have very good social skills and makes you feel uncomfortable to be engaged in a conversation with…yah, you know the type.

I also felt like I was reaching for something to talk about…like, trying to tackle these bigger issues without having the right ammo first. And its a weird topic to bring up with people in the real world like with my social work friends and others at work as they don’t often have much to bring to the table for one of three reasons: 1) none of them are adopted, 2) none of them are parents of adoptees, and 3) some of them are in the same place as I trying to wrap their heads around it as they hardly understand it (just a note: there are some social workers who either are 1 or 2, but we’re not as close, and I feel awful vulnerable just popping in at their desk and trying to discuss this stuff with them). Furthermore, I felt like I was writing for someone else, for a reader, when, once again, the blog is for me to write what I’m thinking about, what’s troubling me, and to give others a glance into this side of the adoption triad.

I’m feeling refreshed now though, and ready to write and tackle some stuff. This blog however, might be taking some twists as I move forward as this adoption journey is about to get a whole lot more personal. That’s right folks, my husband and I are about to begin our adoption journey (more on this at a later time), but don’t fret! This isn’t going to be the type of adoption blog where the waiting family just tells innocuous stories. No no. Because we’ll be waiting like 3 years for a referral, I plan on spending that time learning what the hell we need to do to be the best damned adoptive parents to this kid (or kids) that we can be because I don’t want to repeat some of the shit I see adoptive families do everyday.

 Now, I’m gonna say it once again for everyone so we’re all on the same page as we move forward, ready? Here we go: I don’t really know shit about all this adoption stuff and am kind of shooting from my hip from what I’ve learned since working in the field. As a prospective adoptive parent myself, I really, really want to understand the issues surrounding adoption better than I do, yet in a way, I’m hesitant to bring some stuff up because it may seem rude or uncouth. But you know what, I need to learn this stuff even if I sound like a jackass and have people yell at me in the meantime.

So, here goes nothing!